30岁人生的五堂课

标签: 人生 | 发表时间:2011-09-16 08:47 | 作者:桑塔露琪亚 Jason
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译者 桑塔露琪亚

I’m 30 years old, and there are several things that life has taught me that I want to share with you.  Some of these things I’ve known since I was young, some of these things I have learned recently.

  我30岁了,生活教会我一些东西,我想与君共勉。其中有一些是我儿时就懂的,另一些是近几年才知晓。

I believe these lessons will add to your life.  Without further ado, here are the 5 lessons that life has taught me at 30 years of age.

我相信这些经验会对你的人生有利。事不宜迟,与你分享我在30岁时生活教会我的5堂课。

5 Lessons Life Has Taught Me at 30:

30岁时的5堂人生课:

1. Marry Well

1.美满的婚姻

“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.” –Mignon McLaughlin

幸福美满的婚姻意味着始终和一个人恩恩爱爱,白头偕老。

In the movie “Shallow Hal,” Jack Black’s character “Hal” was cheated on by his girlfriend.  Of course, he was very sad given this situation.  His friend tried to comfort him by telling him, “You didn’t know she was bad.”  To which Hal replied, “I knew she wasn’t good.”

影片《庸人哈尔》中,杰克布莱克的角色“哈尔”被他的女友所欺骗。当然了,他因此而伤心欲绝。他的朋友安慰他说,“你不知道她是个坏女孩。”哈尔的回答是,“我知道她不是好人。”

It’s critical that you pursue relationships with individuals who are “good,” first.  Don’t let your primary criteria be cuteness or coolness. You only want to get married once, so it’s critical that you marry the right person.  Marry someone who you can fall in love with several times over, because they’re so good.

以人品好坏为标准来选择婚姻伴侣是首当其冲的。不要被可爱或冷酷的外表迷惑了你的判断。你一生只想结一次婚,因此你必须慎之又慎地挑选佳偶。和你倾心相恋的人结婚,因为他们是如此的好。

2. Take Care of Your Body

2.注重自我保养

“I’m pretty sure there’s a lot more to life than being really, really, ridiculously good looking. And I plan on finding out what that is.” –Zoolander

“我敢肯定人生中有许多东西真的,真的比一副好相貌更为重要。我要明了什么对我最重要。”——佐兰德。

Life is “unfairly” biased towards people who “look good,” like it or not.  So it’s important that you do all that is in your power to look your best.  And by “doing all that is in your power” I mean dressing nicely, working out and eating right.

You will live longer, and you will live happier, if you take care of your body; you may even get promoted faster on your job.  Research shows that people who take good care of their body are perceived to be better workers.

And if that’s not enough to motivate you, remember that your health is really your greatest wealth.

你喜欢也好,不喜欢也罢,生活总是垂爱那些仪表堂堂的人们。因此你必须尽最大的努力在你的着装仪表上下功夫。而“尽最大的努力”我是说你无论是工作还是就餐时都要力求着装漂亮体面。

若你注重健康保养,你会活得更长久,你的幸福也会更长久;甚至连你的职位也会频繁提升。研究表明那些养生有道的人们被认为是较为出色的员工。

如果以上所言还不足以激励你,记住你的健康是你最大的财富。

3. Save Your Money

 3. 节约用钱

“If you would be wealthy, think of saving as well as getting.” –Benjamin Franklin

“若你生活富裕,要保持收入和支出持平。”—本杰明▪富兰克林。

While I believe in having nice things, I’m a greater believer in paying yourself first.

我喜欢拥有美好的东西,我也坚信要量入为出。

No one taught me to save when I was growing up, no one told me the importance of saving, fortunately I was able to learn the value of saving through reading great books like “The Millionaire Next Door.”  I want to teach others what I was not taught when I was young, and that message is to save at least twenty percent of your income.  If you are to be wealthy, you must not just earn a lot, you must save a lot.

在我成长的岁月里,没人教我节约用钱,没人告诉我节约有多么重要,所幸的是我从《邻家百万富翁》这样的好书中学到了节约的意义。我想把我年轻时无人传授的经验教给别人,亦即至少省下你20%的收入。若你生活优裕,你不能只想着赚大钱,你必须省下一大笔钱。

4. Think Long-term

 4. 深谋远虑

“…if you are a long-term thinker, then you are significantly more likely to achieve greater success in your life compared to those that aren’t.” – Jeff Nickles  

 “...如果你是一个深谋远虑的人,那你更有可能攀登成功的顶峰。”—杰夫▪尼克尔斯

In high school I was thinking about college, in college I was thinking about life after college.  In my teens, I was thinking about 20’s, in my 20’s, I was thinking about my 30s.  Now that I’m 30, I’m planning how my life will be in my 40’s.  I’m designing my life and I’m making decisions today that will enable me to live the life I desire when I’m in my 40’s, 50’s and 60’s.

上高中时我想着大学生活,上了大学我又想着毕业以后的生活。在我十几岁时,我思索我的20岁,到了20岁我又思虑我的30岁。如今我30了,我又在计划40岁的生活。如今,我又在酝酿着40岁,50岁和60岁时的人生蓝图。

You have to think long-term, you have to see the “big picture.”  If you plan your future properly, you will live into your plans.

你得作长远的人生谋划,你得畅想“人生蓝图。”若你合理地规划你的未来,你将梦想成真。

5. Realize the Power of Focus

5. 认识到聚焦的力量

“One reason so few of us achieve what we truly want is that we never direct our focus; we never concentrate our power. Most people dabble their way through life, never deciding to master anything in particular.” –Tony Robbins  

“我们难以达成理想的一个原因是我们缺少指引;我们从不凝聚我们的力量。大多数人辗转奔波,从没有想过要掌握某种特长。”—托尼 罗宾斯

Focus, focus, focus…  Nothing is more critical than focus.  If you fail in this lifetime, you will fail because of broken focus.

聚焦,聚焦,聚焦。。。没有什么比聚焦更重要的。如果你的人生失败了,你将会?

If you focus on the goals that are most important to you, to the exclusion of everything else, you will achieve them.

如果你集中精力去实现那些对你来说最重要的目标,排除其他干扰因素,你将会达成理想。

The problem is that there are so many distractions.  What separates the winners from the losers is that the winners learn to focus on their goal.  Winners decide to major on majors, and they even let important things slip, because they focus solely on achieving that which is critical to their goals.

  问题是干扰因素如此之多。胜利者和失败者的区别就在于胜者可以集中精力完成目标。胜者主攻专长,他们甚至对大事情忽略不计,因为他们必须完成对他们来说最重要的理想。

Focus is the key to success, Tony Robbins said, “Most people have no idea of the giant capacity we can immediately command when we focus all of our resources on mastering a single area of our lives.”

凝聚是成功的密钥,托尼▪罗宾斯说过,“当我们凝聚了所有的力量用于掌握我们人生中的单一领域之时,大多数的人对这种超能力一无所知。”

You have an enormous capacity to accomplish great things, the question is will you do it, will you focus, will you succeed.

你有干大事的超能力,关键是你若能集中精力,你就能成功。

Thank you for reading, please pass this article along.

谢谢阅读,请将此文常记心中。

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