五种常见的精神毒药——关于我们的执行和热情

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The Top 5 Motivation Poisons

五种常见的精神毒药——关于我们的执行和热情

Written by Hillary Rubin - 5 Comments

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Categories: motivation, productivity tips, self improvement

分类：行为动机，生产率提升，自我提高

I hear it all the time from clients and people that I meet: they’re not motivated. They say they’re lazy and wish they could do this or that but…

我总能从我的客户或者是身边的人口中听到：他们很茫然，他们说他们总是比较懒并且在目标问题上摇摆不定。

I’m not big on excuses or labels, especially “lazy”. So, when I hear “I’m just not disciplined,” I almost always ask:

我对理由和借口丝毫不感兴趣，更别说他们所谓“懒惰”的标签了。所以当我听到类似于“我总是有那么一点点不自觉”这样的话时，我几乎都会问他们这样的问题：

Have you ever been disciplined to do anything?

你们曾经自觉的去做过什么事情么？

What was it that helped you?

是什么促使你们去做呢？

What got in the way?

其中的艰难阻碍又是什么？

Identifying obstacles helps you build a sustainable foundation for perseverance in the face of adversity.

对于困难阻碍的界定有助于我们在面对困难的时候建立一个坚强后盾，能够使我们坚持下去。

Motivation is personal. Discipline is a muscle.

动机都是表面的，而自律则带来力量。

You can learn to be motivated.

你应该学会变得积极乐观，并有明确的目标。

You HAVE to want to put time into it, to create a new habit, to make it part of your lifestyle.

你应该花时间去努力，并使之成为你的一个新习惯，让它成为你生活方式中的一部分。

Before your rebellious inner child starts an ‘I DON’T WANNA!’ tantrum, keep reading. One of these 5 poisons may be getting in your way of your heart’s desire.

在你的内心世界开始咆哮的反抗说：“我不要”之前，继续读下去！也许这五种毒药中恰恰就会如你所愿，存在于你的思维方式中。

The Top 5 Poisons of Motivation:

5种顶级毒药，关于我们的行为动机。（越好的东西反而有可能成为最大的毒药）

1. Perfectionism

完美主义

Become a recovering perfectionist. Oh, yes, I did say that.

成为一个总在弥补的完美主义者，对，我说的就是你们。

When you get caught up in ideals, you create resistance that gets in the way of your motivation. You’re stuck focusing on the ideal and think “If its not perfect, why bother?” We’re so addicted to this in our society. We feel that getting the best grades, getting the awards, getting all these accolades defines us and holds the basis of our self-worth.

当我们陷入到了那些理想之中的时候，往往会在我们的行为动机上心生阻碍。你会深陷于所谓的理想情况之中无法自拔，老是在思考“如果事情不够完美的话，那有什后继续麻烦的必要呢？”在我们现代社会中，我们总是沉湎于这样的情况。我们总认为去达到最好的层次，得到最好的奖赏，去获取所有的奖赏能够成为证明和保持我们自身价值的基础。

And if we don’t get the gold star, we beat ourselves up and miss the point. If you get caught with in achieving perfect results, you’re never going to start anything. You’re paralyzed.

如果我们无法获得那样的褒奖，我们会自己将自己击落于深渊且迷失。如果你限于对完美结果的实现的憧憬，那你将不会去尝试开始做任何事情。其实，就是陷入到一种麻痹瘫痪的状态。

Thomas Edison invented 3,000 duds before he invented the lightbulb. He himself did not call it failure. Instead, he said: “Any of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”

托马斯爱迪生在发明灯泡之前经历了三千多次失败。他自己并不认为那是失败，与之相反的是，他说：“在生活中所经历的任何一次失败，都只是为了证明那些放弃的人们，他们没有意识到到自己距离成功是如此之近。”

Taking imperfect action is the best starting point.

事无完美是我们开始一件事情的最佳驱动点。

2. Comparing yourself to others

总是以己推人，陷入攀比的泥沼

This is another potent motivation-zapper. Even worse, it can prevent you from finding your own path. Motivation is truly personal.

这是另外一剂行动阻滞剂。这比前面那个还要糟糕，它能直接让你找不到方向，迷失自我。行为动机，往往都是非常个性化的。

Study what motivates others as inspiration, but if it  gets you stuck or moving backwards with doubt, then why bother? It’s easy to get lost in someone else’s life, wishing that it was your own.

学习那些驱动别人的动机可以作为灵感或者是启迪，但是如果你要陷于疑惑或者是倒退的看问题，那你又会扪心自问，为啥要如此麻烦呢？在他人的生活中迷失是一件非常容易的事情，你会总是想让别人的生活成为你自己的。

Trying to be ‘like’ ANYONE is a total waste of time.

试图成为别人，是对时间最大的浪费。

Yes, we’re all guilty of it. Remember: there is only one of YOU.

对，我们总为此感到愧疚。永远记住一点：你永远是世上独一无二的存在。

The universe made you perfect. Ignoring that and trying to emulate someone else is a slap in the face.

造物主让你完美。忽略那些你试图模仿的“他”吧，他们对你而言只是一种打击。

3. Thinking that you’re not ‘good enough’

总觉得自己不够好

If, like me, you grew up hearing “You have to prove yourself to the world!”, that mantra probably still follows you. It can run you to the ground.

如果你像我这样在“你必须向全世界证明你的存在”这样的话语中成长的话，这样的魔咒会用随你一生。它会让你在各方面如同打了鸡血一般。

I understand that in your work you have to show your abilities or your skills to prove you can deliver. But you shouldn’t rely on that for self-validation.

我当然了解在工作中我们都必须尽量去向他人展现自己的能力或者是技巧。但是你不能把这样的方式当做自我实现的途径。

If you’ve been told you’re not good enough, I understand the programming. It hurts and digs deep. But make no mistake: it’s a LIE.

如果你被告知说你不够优秀，我明白这样的过程和体验。这是一个伤不起的感受和过程。其实人无完人，要在工作中不犯错误，这本身就是最大的谎言。

You have to be motivated to fulfill your soul’s desire, to create your own happiness, healing and harmony.

你必须积极的满足你内心的欲望和渴求，去创造获得属于你自己的快乐和自我恢复能力，当然，还有就是你内心的平静。

If you were born, then you are good enough.

只要你生于人世，你便已足够优秀。

You must change the theme song in your mind from You SUCK to You ROCK.

你必须把你内心的主旋律由苦逼变成主动出击的状态。

4. Doing too much at once.

在开始做的过多

Bitten off more than you can chew? That might be sabotaging your progress. You’ve got to pull back a little bit and really look at what’s going on. Don’t be a slave to your ego.

眼大肚小？这可能会破坏整个事情的进展。你必须稍稍收敛然后安然的审视一下整个事态的发展走向。不要成为你自负的奴隶。

I get snagged by this one and always have to step back to make sure my choices are in alignment with my soul. If you feel that it’s too overwhelming, take one step at a time.

我会因为上述的理由而变得焦躁，并总是再回到之前的状态来确认我当初的选择是否是我内心中最想要的。如果我觉得事情是我难以承担的，我会改变策略慢慢来。

Baby steps.

蹒跚学步。

The solution here is to hone in on your goal, desire, or dream. Life will happen. It will always take more time, more money or more anything than you anticipated. Don’t let it stop you, and remember to check in with your WHY.

这样的解决办法其实就是对你的目标、愿望或者是梦想的打磨，没有人生来便会跑。生活总是向前走的。目标愿望的实现总是比你所预期的要多花费些时间、金钱或者是其他的一些东西。不要让这拦住你的脚步，记住，和你继续下去的理由同在。

It’s about setting goals that stretch you outside of your comfort zone and you believe, on one level, that you can achieve.  Go for a C+, good enough and I promise you will do better. It’s a great way to trick the ego and make it right. This may keep you motivated to do more.

目标的设置和选择总会将你从你的信仰和适应范围当中拖出来，在一定的范围之内，你是可以达到的。去争取一个C+？你肯定能比这个做得更好。这是客服自私与成功的诀窍。它能够让你有足够的动力去做更多。

Being aware and taking passionate action keeps you on the level and open to enjoying the adventure.

尽量采取一个积极向上的行为方式能够让你保持一个相对高昂的斗志，并且它能够让你开始去享受冒险。

5. Excusitis.

借口至上

There is always an excuse – why you can’t do it, why today it didn’t happen, how you’re going to do it tomorrow. When we find excuses for not doing things, we’re rebelling. We just want to stay in a comfort zone.

借口总是有的——为什么你不能行动？为什么今天不做要准备明天去做呢？当我们为我们的种种不作为寻找借口的时候，我们都是在纠结。我们就想保持一种舒适的状态，无所事事。

See how this comes up again?  A part of it is that your ego feels threatened by moving forward and wants to protect you.

看看这些借口是怎样一次又一次的重复吧。你的自我意识受到了对未来无知的恐吓，试图去保护你自己免于“未来”对你的伤害。

But really, you’re totally safe.

其实说真的，你很安全。

When you do something you haven’t done before, your ego goes into a state of alarm: “Watch out! Danger!” and then fear kicks in.

当你在尝试做你从前从未做过的事情之前，你的内心会进入这样的警报情境“小心！危险！”然后恐惧就会侵入你的内心。

But my answer to that is “No. FEAR is  f*cking exciting and rewarding.” This reframe changes the game.

但我对此的答案就是：“不，恐惧就他*是令人激动和有益的！”这让生活充满了乐趣。

We say “I can’t,” but really we’re afraid to try something new. That’s the truth and we’re afraid to admit it, or to even prove ourselves wrong. You are capable of more. You can handle more, even in the midst of a challenge.  Try it, you may be surprised, and bust a limiting belief.

当然我们也可以说不，可这就是我们不想尝试新鲜事物的恐惧作祟罢了。这是事实只不过我们羞于承认，或者可以这样说，它甚至证明了我们自身的错误。你可以做到，远比你想象的要多。你能够掌控更多，甚至于在一个挑战中你也能应对自如。去试试吧，你会为自己的表现而惊叹，你只会颠覆你那有限的信念。

What excuses are you living with？

Ready to release the need to live in your perfectionism, low self esteem and excuses? Then ask yourself this question.

为什么你总是生活在各种借口当中？

准备好去放弃你的完美主义的梦想吧，放下你的自尊和自我原谅？用这个问题问问你自己吧。

What’s holding you back ?

是什么让你拥有过去？

Take your time, and don’t think about it – feel into it. Be kind with yourself. Your power is in your choices.

抓紧时间，不要多想，感受一下。对你自己善良些吧。你的力量在你的选择当中。

Now, go get’em warrior soul!

现在，去获得那个战士般的灵魂吧。