12种方法达到生命中的第二次蜕变

标签：法达生命蜕变 | 发表时间：2011-08-18 17:50 | 作者：skyhawks 霜冻

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来源12 Ways to Get a Second Chance in Life
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“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning,but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”-Maria Robinson

没有人可以回到过去重新开始，但每个人都可以从今天做起，创造新的未来——玛丽亚·罗宾逊

We all need second chances. This isn’t a perfect world. We’re not perfect people. I’m probably on my 1000th second chance right now and I’m not ashamed to admit it. Because even though I’ve failed a lot, it means I’ve tried a lot too.

我们都需要第二次机会。金无足赤，人无完人。此刻我可能面临着自己的第一千次机会，但我可以勇敢的承认它，因为尽管我失败了很多次，同时也意味着我努力尝试了许多次。

We rarely get things right the first time. Almost every major accomplishment in a person’s life starts with the decision to try again and again – to get up after every failed attempt and give it another shot.

我们几乎不可能第一次就把事情做对。人生中，几乎每个重大的成功都是无数次的尝试后达到的——跌倒后站起来，再次尝试。

The only difference between an opportunity and an obstacle is attitude. Getting a second chance in life is about giving yourself the opportunity to grow beyond your past failures. It’s about positively adjusting your attitude toward future possibilities. Here’s how:

机遇或困境之间的不同存在于我们的态度。人生中不断尝试正是给自己机会让自己在失败中成长。要积极地调整自己的心态，面向充满可能的未来。以下是些建议：

1. Let go of the past.

1、放下过去

What’s done is done. When life throws us nasty curveballs it typically doesn’t make any sense to us, and our natural emotional reaction might be to get extremely upset and scream obscenities at the top of our lungs. But how does this help our dilemma? Obviously, it doesn’t.

覆水难收。当生活中的不顺抛向你往往没有特别的意义，而我们的情绪却会自然地变得极其沮丧，污言秽语从心底深处大喊出来。但这对我们的困境竟会有哪些帮助嘛？很明显，一点用处也没有。

The smartest, and oftentimes hardest, thing we can do in these kinds of situations is to be more tempered in our reactions. To want to scream obscenities, but to wiser and more disciplined than that. To remember that emotional rage only makes matters worse. And to remember that tragedies are rarely as bad as they seem, and even when they are, they give us an opportunity to grow stronger.

遇此境况，我们可以做的最聪明也往往是最艰难的选择或者就是更加温和的应对这一切。此时每个人都想恶言相向，但是要更聪慧，更有纪律性。勃然大怒只会让事情变得更糟。悲剧并不仅仅如其表面看来的那么糟，即便如此，也给了我们机会让我们更坚强。

Every difficult moment in our lives is accompanied by an opportunity for personal growth and creativity. But in order to attain this growth and creativity, we must first learn to let go of the past. We must recognize that difficulties pass like everything else in life. And once they pass, all we’re left with are our unique experiences and the lessons required two make a better attempt next time.

生活中每一次困境都伴随着个人成长和创造的机遇。但为了达到蜕变，我们必须先学会放下过去。我们必须认识困境如生命中其他事物一样会过去。一旦困境走过，我们独特的经历和从中汲取的教训会让我们再次更从容的重新尝试。

2. Identify the lesson.

2、汲取教训

Everything is a life lesson. Everyone you meet, everything you encounter, etc. They’re all part of the learning experience we call ‘life.’

任何事情都是生命的课程。生活中遇到的每个人，我们遇到的每件事物，都是我们生命经历的一部分。

Never forget to acknowledge the lesson, especially when things don’t go your way. If you don’t get a job you wanted or a relationship doesn’t work, it only means something better is out there waiting. And the lesson you just learned is the first step towards it.

绝不要忘记学习生命的教训，特别当事情并不是按自己的想法发生的时候。如果你没有得到想要的工作或者一段关系陷入危机，这只是意味着更好的事物正在前方等待着。你刚得到的教训是你迈向它的第一步。

3. Lose the negative attitude.

3、摆脱负面的心态

Negative thinking creates negative results. Positive thinking creates positive results. Period.

消极的想法产生负面的后果。积极的想法产生正向的结果。

Every one of the other suggestions in this article is irrelevant if your mind is stuck in the gutter. Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story. The mind must believe it can do something before it is capable of actually doing it. For some practical positive thinking guidance I recommend reading The Power of Positive Thinking.

如果你的思想陷在绝望之中，本文中的其他每一个建议就没有相关的了。积极思考是每个伟大成功故事的前奏。在做一件事情之前，首先要相信自己有能力做到。关于一些实用的积极思考的指导，我推荐读下《积极思考的力量》。

4. Accept accountability for your current situation.

4、拥抱当下的责任

Either you take accountability for your life or someone else will. And when they do, you’ll become a slave to their ideas and dreams instead of a pioneer of your own.

要么担起自己的责任，要么听任别人的意愿。如果你听任别人，你将成为别人观点和梦想的奴隶，而不是以自己的思想为先导。

You are the only one who can directly control the outcome of your life. And no, it won’t always be easy. Every person has a stack of obstacles in front of them. You must take accountability for your situation and overcome these obstacles. Choosing not to is giving up.

你是唯一直接控制自己生命结果的那个人。而它绝不会如此轻易做到。在每个人面前都有成堆的障碍。你必须为自己负责，努力克服困难，永不放弃。

5. Focus on the things you can change.

5、聚焦你能改变的事物

Some forces are out of your control. The best thing you can do is do the best with what’s in front of you with the resources you do have access to.

一些力量是你无法控制的。你能做的就是利用你能够得到的资源尽全力做好你眼下的事情。

Wasting your time, talent and emotional energy on things that are beyond your control is a recipe for frustration, misery and stagnation. Invest your energy in the things you can change.

浪费时间，天资和情感在那些你无法控制的事情上往往只能得到挫折、痛苦和停滞。把精力放在那些你可以改变的事情上。

6. Figure out what you really want.

6、确定自己真正想要的

You’ll be running on a hamster wheel forever if you never decide where you want to go. Figure out what’s meaningful to you so you can be who you were born to be.

如果你从未确定自己的方向，你将会永远在原地踏步。找到对自己有意义的事，这样你才能成为你本该成为的人。

Some of us were born to be musicians – to communicate intricate thoughts and rousing feelings with the strings of a guitar. Some of us were born to be poets – to touch people’s hearts with exquisite prose. Some of us were born to be entrepreneurs – to create growth and opportunity where others saw rubbish. And still, some of us were born to be or do whatever it is, specifically, that moves you.

我们中的一些人生来就是音乐家——用吉它诉说那些复杂和令人感动的情感。我们中的一些人生来就是诗人——用优美的散文触碰人们的心灵。我们中的一些人生来就是企业家——于平凡之中创造出成长和机遇。我们中还有一些人生来或者做那些特别让人感动的事。

Don’t quit just because you didn’t get it right on your first shot. And don’t waste your life fulfilling someone else’s dreams and desires. You must follow your intuition and make a decision to never give up on who you are capable of becoming.

不要因为第一次没有成功就放弃你的脚步。也不要浪费自己的生命去成就别人的梦想和渴望。你必须跟随自己的直觉，下定决心，永不放弃，成为你能够成为的人。

7. Eliminate the non-essential.

7、排除那些可有可无的东西

First, identify the essential – the things in your life that matter most to you. Then eliminate the fluff. This drastically simplifies things and leaves you with a clean slate – a fresh, solid foundation to build upon without needless interferences. This process works with any aspect of your life – work projects, relationships, general to-do lists, etc.

首先，确定那些必需的——生命中对自己最重要的事物。然后，排除那些无价值的东西。这样可简化事项，彻底清除杂念——心无旁骛地建立一个崭新坚固的基础。这一过程涉及到你生活的方方面面——工作项目、关系维护、通常待办事项，等等。

Remember, you can’t accomplish anything if you’re trying to accomplish everything. Concentrate on the essential. Get rid of the rest. The Joy of Less is a great read on this topic.

记住这点：如果你想完成每件事，那么你什么事都做不成。聚焦在那些重要的事情上，排除掉其他一切。简化是这一话题最关键的一点。

8. Be very specific.

8、具体化

When you set new goals for yourself, try to be as specific as possible. “I want to lose twenty pounds” is a goal you can aim to achieve. “I want to lose weight” is not. Knowing the specific measurements of what you want to achieve is the only way you will ever get to the end result you desire.

当为自己设定新的目标的时候，尽量具体化。“我想减掉20磅”是一个你可以完成的目标。而“我想减肥”却不是。确定你想要达到的具体尺度是你唯一能够最终完成所愿的方式。

Also, be specific with your actions too. “I will exercise” is not actionable. It’s far too vague. “I will take a 30 minute jog every weekday at 6PM” is something you can actually do – something you can build a routine around – something you can measure.

同时，具体化你的行为。“我要锻炼”是个不可操控的行为。它太模糊了。“我每个工作日的下午六点要慢跑30分钟”事实上就是你可以完成的事情——你可以建立起一项日程，你可以测量。

9. Concentrate on DOING instead of NOT DOING.

9、聚焦所做的事

“Don’t think about eating that chocolate donut!” What are you thinking about now? Eating that chocolate donut, right? When you concentrate on not thinking about something, you end up thinking about it.

不要想着吃掉那块巧克力炸面圈。现在你在想着什么呢？吃掉那个巧克力炸面圈，对吗？当你集中精力不去想某些事情的时候，你往往得不偿失。

The same philosophy holds true when it comes to breaking our bad habits. By relentlessly trying not to do something, we end up thinking about it so much that we subconsciously provoke ourselves to cheat – to do the exact thing we are trying not to do.

同样的理念也适用于摆脱我们的坏习惯。残酷地尝试着不去做某事，我们往往禁不住去想它，以致于我们下意识地会去欺骗自己——做出我们努力想要克制不去做的事情。

Instead of concentrating on eliminating bad habits, concentrate on creating good habits (that just happen to replace the bad ones). For instance, if you’re trying to eliminate snacking on junk food, you might create a new mental habit like this: “At 3PM each day, about the time I’m usually ready for a snack, I will eat five whole wheat crackers.” After a few weeks or months of concentrating on this good habit it will become part of your routine. You’ll start doing the right thing without even thinking about it.

不要把精力集中在去除坏习惯上，把精力集中在建立好的习惯上（这恰恰可以替代坏的习惯）。举例来说，如果你努力消除吃垃圾食物的习惯，你可能需要建立一个新的心理习惯，比如：每天下午3点，当我通常准备要吃零食的时候，我会吃整整5块薄麦饼干。把精力放在这个好的习惯上，几周或几月之后，它将成为你日常生活的一部分。你将能不加思索的做正确的事情。

10. Create a daily routine.

10、建立日常工作时间表

It’s so simple, but creating a daily routine for yourself can change your life. The most productive routines, I’ve found, come at the start and end of the day – both your workday and your day in general. That means, develop a routine for when you wake up, for when you first start working, for when you finish your work, and for the hour or two before you go to sleep.

这很简单，但为自己建立日常工作时间表能够改变你的生活。我发现，最有效的时间在每天的开始和结束——工作日或者平常的日子里。这也就是说要制定一个常规，每天早晨起来做某事，工作上最先做的事，工作完成之后做的事，以及睡前一到两小时要做的事。

Doing so will help you start each day on point, and end each day in a way that prepares you for tomorrow. It will help you focus on the important stuff, instead of the distractions that keep popping up. And most importantly, it will help you make steady progress – which is what second chances are all about.

这样做可以让你关注每天的重点，当一天结束的时候就能为明天做好准备。它可以让你集中精力在重要的事情上，而不为层出不穷的琐事分心。最为重要的是，它让你不断的进步——这也就是所谓的第二次机会。

11. Maintain self-control and work on it for real.

11、自我控制，真实付出

The harder you work the luckier you will become. Stop waiting around for things to work out. If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting.

工作越努力，幸福越给力。不要等待，问题不会自己得到解决。如果你坚持自己所做的，你将会得到你想得到的。

While many of us decide at some point during the course of our lives that we want to answer our calling, only an astute few of us actually work on it. By “working on it,” I mean truly devoting oneself to the end result. The rest of us never act on our decision. Or, at best, we pretend to act on it by putting forth an uninspired, half-assed effort.

在我们生命进程中的某个时刻我们想要正视内心的呼唤，却只有聪明的几个会身体力行。我所说的“身体力行”，意思是真正地致力于最终的结果。其余的多数却从未采取行动。或者至少，我们只是无精打采，半途而废地假装努力。

If you want a real second chance, you’ve got to be willing to give it all you got. No slacking off! This means you have to strengthen and maintain your self-control. The best way I’ve found to do this is to take one small bite of the elephant at a time. Start with just one activity, and make a plan for how you will deal with troubles when they arise. For instance, if you’re trying to lose weight, come up with a list of healthy snacks you can eat when you get the craving for snacks. It will be hard in the beginning, but it will get easier. And that’s the whole point. As your strength grows, you can take on bigger challenges.

如果你想要真正的第二次机遇，你会倾已所有。从不懈怠！这就是说你必须加强和维持自控能力。我发现最好的方法就是把工作分解，不要一口吃个胖子。每次只采取一个行动，当困难出现的时候，制定出计划去处理它们。举例来说：如果你想努力减肥，为自己制定出一个健康的零食清单，以备你热切渴望零食之需。这就是要领。当你的能力增长了，你就可以接受更大的挑战。

Remember, life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something worthwhile. Achieving your dreams can be a lot of work, even the second time around. Be ready for it. Read Getting Things Done for some practical guidance in this arena.

生活本不易，特别是你计划完成某些有意义的事情的时候。即便有第二次机会，要达成梦想可能需要大量的工作。要做好准备。请阅读《完成任务，竞技场上的一些特殊指导》。