男女必读——好男人必备三大品质

译者 Sanapo

The 3 Signs of a Good Man – A Must Read for Women and Men

男女必读——好男人必备三大品质

Today I want to discuss the 3 signs of a good man.

今天的话题是好男人应该具备的三大品质。

I’ve received several requests to extend my writing on “success and prosperity” into the arena of successful relationships, so I’m doing a brief series on the subject of relationships over the next week or so.

不少朋友在邮件中说想让我谈谈怎样才能处理好情侣之间的关系，所以接下来我将花一周左右的时间对此做一个系列介绍。

I’m going to relate this particular article to the movie “The Wizard of Oz.”  If you’ve ever had the luxury of seeing the movie, you know it’s about a girl named Dorothy, and her journey to visit the Wizard (with her dog Toto).  The Wizard is suppose to have the ability to help Dorothy get back to her home in Kansas.

我要说的内容和电影《绿野仙踪》有关。如果恰好你也看过这部电影，你一定知道故事主要讲述了一个名叫桃乐丝的小女孩和她的小狗“托托”一起启程拜访魔法师，乞求他帮助他们重返堪萨斯家园的故事。

On her way to meet the Wizard, Dorothy runs into three men who need help.  She runs into a scarecrow, a tin man, and a male lion, and she agrees to let them follow her on her journey to see the Wizard.

路上，桃乐丝遇见了三个需要帮助的人：稻草人、铁皮人和一头雄狮，为了达到各自的愿望，桃乐丝答应他们一同前行。

The scarecrow doesn’t have a brain, the tin man doesn’t have a heart, and the lion, believe it or not, doesn’t have courage.

稻草人没有头脑，铁皮人没有心脏，而这头狮子，不管你信不信，却是胆小如鼠，一点勇气也没有。

So we have Dorothy and her dog Toto leading three men; three men who are searching for a brain, a heart, and courage.

三个人跟随桃乐丝和小狗“托托”一路前行，各自寻找头脑、心脏和勇气。

Let me repeat that, for those of you who weren’t paying attention, we have three men, being led by a girl and a dog, trying to find a brain, a heart, and courage.

要是刚才有人打盹没听见的话，我再啰嗦一下: 稻草人、铁皮人和狮子一路上跟着小女孩和她的小狗来找回各自的头脑、心脏和勇气。

A Brain

有头脑

Women, the first sign of a good man is that he has a brain.  In other words, he’s astute, judicious, and intelligent; he can think for himself, his actions are not dictated by his friends or his associates.

对于女人来说，好男人首先应该有头脑。换句话说，他精明做人、睿智处事；他遇事有主见，所做之事不受朋友或同伴的意见左右。

He possesses the cognitive ability to recognize your importance and see your true value.  He’s smart enough to appreciate you, and intelligent enough to show it.

他知道你的重要性及价值所在。他不仅懂得欣赏你，还能恰如其分地让你知道他在欣赏你。

He’s a visionary; he knows what he’s doing and where he’s going.  He’s a leader; he’s able to handle his responsibilities; he’s able to control himself, his anger, and his nature, in other words, he has a brain.

他是个有远见卓识的人，他做事胸有成竹，目标明确；他是一位领导者，他有能力肩负起自己的责任；他能驾驭自己，控制住自己的愤怒、性情，换而言之，他是一位有头脑的人。

A Heart

有心

The second sign of a good man is that he has a heart.  Some men are cold, they’re callous and they’re mean.  They don’t feel anything, don’t care about anything, don’t care if you cry, don’t care when you hurt, they are uninterested in the things that you are interested in; your feelings mean “nothing,” they don’t have a heart!

好男人其次应该有心。有的男人冷酷无情，吝啬不堪。他们不关心也不在乎任何事情，你哭了他不懂得关心你，受伤了他不懂得照顾你，你感兴趣的事物他也无心理会；对他而言，你的感情就是浮云！这样的男人空有心却无情！

A man “with a heart” is concerned about you, takes an interest in the things that interest you, and prizes you above anyone else.  A man with a heart will spend time with you, because he knows that time is a sign of value.  What people value they dedicate time to.  A good man has a heart.

一个真正有“心”的男人他会关心你，会爱屋及乌地对你感兴趣的事情产生兴趣，他会珍惜你，视你为掌上珍宝。一个真正有“心”的男人他愿意花时间陪你，因为他知道时间就是价值的象征，而人都愿意把时间花在有价值的地方。总之，好男人是一位有心人。

A man with a heart defers to you, respects your emotions, your feelings and your perspective.  A man with a heart is not intimated by your intelligence, intuition and sensitivity; he understands you and relies on you.

一个真正有“心”的男人会尊重你，尊重你的感情和想法。一个真正有“心”的男人他不会受你的智慧、直觉或敏感的心而左右，他会理解你、依赖着你。

A man with a heart respects his parents, his neighbors and most importantly, a man with a heart respects the women he’s with.

一个真正有“心”的男人会尊敬长辈和邻里，但最重要的是他尊重与他相携到老的女人。

Courage

有勇气

The third sign of a good man is courage.  He has courage in the face of circumstances, challenges and misunderstandings.  He doesn’t quit or shrink, he doesn’t run-out, and he doesn’t give up or back down when things get rough; he has courage.  He has the courage to stay committed to relationships, the courage to make big decisions, and the courage to back his decisions.

好男人第三个品质是有勇气。他有足够的勇气去面对突发事件、挑战以及误解。身临困境之下他绝不退缩、永不言弃，他会以十足的勇气来迎接挑战。他勇于遵守爱情诺言，敢于做出决断，并对做出的决定有十足的信心及把握。

He has the courage to change when change is required.

同时，当世事变迁时，他还有顺应时势及时应变的能力。

He has the courage to take risk, the courage to pursue his dreams, the courage to love the unlovely, and the courage to do the right thing.

有勇气的男人还敢于冒险，勇于追梦，能容不爱之人，会做正义之事。

He has the courage to commit to you for a lifetime, the courage to respect you, the courage to protect you, the courage to earn a living, the courage to pursue his passion and the courage to be the man that you desire him to be.

有勇气的男人会对你忠守一生，会敬你、护你、养你，他勇于追求梦想，愿意如你所愿，努力成为你心目中的白马王子。

In closing, a good man has a brain, he has a heart, and last but not least, a good man has courage.

总之，好男人会有头脑、用心待人，最重要的是好男人还是位有胆量的人。