克服不自信的六大方法

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来源6 Ways to Conquer the Demons of Self-Doubt
译者magicjun_jun

“You’ll never succeed.”

“你永远也成功不了！”

“You’re not good enough.”

“你还不够好！”

“You might as well give up now.”

“你最好还是放弃吧!”

Chances are, you’re hearing things like that every single day.

有可能，你每一天都会听到类似的话语。

They don’t come from your friend, or even your enemies.

这些话不是来自你的朋友，也不是来自于你的对手。

They come from inside your own head.

而是来自你自己的脑海。

Perhaps you’re working towards a big goal: like losing weight and getting fit, or starting up your own business. You might have big ambitions … but you’ve also got to fight a battle against those internal voices.

也许你正为了一个远大的目标而努力：譬如说减肥啊，塑型啊，或者创业什么的。也许你雄心满满，但你也需要同这些心声作内部斗争。

You’re not the only person who feels that way. We all have to struggle against self-doubt. And we can all overcome those negative, destructive thoughts that hold us back from reaching our goals.

这样想的不是只有你一个人而已。我们都不得不因不自信而挣扎。但我们是都可以克服所有的消极面，负面的想法，从而达成我们的目标。

Here’s how.

以下就是关键了。

#1: Remember What You’ve Already Accomplished

1.记住，你已经很精通了。

You’ve managed to achieve lots of amazing things already. Perhaps you’ve made direct progress towards your goal: you’ve lost 10lbs, so you know you can go on and lose another 10.

你已经努力完成了很多了不起的事情。也许你一朝着你的目标前进了一大步：你已经减掉了10磅，你就可以坚信你可以继续下去，并再减掉10磅。

Even if your goal is brand-new, you can draw on past accomplishments. Maybe you’re overwhelmed by everything you need to learn in order to get your graduate degree … but you can remember how your hard work paid off when you were an undergraduate, or a high school student.

就算你的目标是最近才新立的。你也可以运用过去的经验。也许你为了拿到毕业文凭被你必须要学习的东西压得透不过气来。但是你应该还记得，为了成为一名大学生或者高中生时你付出了多少努力。

Do it: Write down three things that you’ve accomplished. It doesn’t matter how big or small they are.

行动吧：写下三件你曾经完成的事情，无论它们是多么的重大或是微不足道。

#2: Act Confident

2.表现得自信

Even if you don’t feel at all confident, you can behave as if you are. Once you start acting confident, you’ll begin to believe in yourself.

即使你一点都没有信心，但你也要表现得很自信。一旦表现出了自信，你就已经开始相信自身了。

Let’s say you’ve started doing freelance photography on the weekends, and you’ve got your first few paying gigs. Your clients don’t need to know that you’re new to this. They don’t need to hear about how nervous you are. If you behave like a professional, they’ll see you as one – and you’ll start to see yourself through their eyes.

我们假说你开始在周末从事自由摄影，并且你已经获得了少量的酬薪。所以，你的客人不需要知道你是个新手。他们也不会听到你有多么的紧张。如果你表现地很专业，他们就会正视你，你也可以从他们的眼中看到自己的存在。

Do it: Figure out one way in which you could act confident, starting right now.

行动吧：找出一种属于自己表现自信的方法，并马上付诸行动。

#3: Read Success Stories From Other People

  3.从他人那边学习一些励志的故事

Whenever I’ve tackled a big goal in my own life – like losing weight or starting my own business – I’ve been inspired by stories from others.

在我的一生中，无论合适处理一个稍大的目标-减肥或者创业-我总是能从别人的故事中得到一些启发。

Lots of people have achieved the goals that you’re working towards. Many of those people will have started off in a worse position than you: they were more overweight, or more deeply in debt, or struggling in all sorts of ways. But they still succeeded … and so can you.

你共事的很多人中都曾经有过成功。在他们中间，有相当一部分人在开始的时候处于了一个比你更糟糕的位置：他们可能比你更胖，或者背负了巨额债券，或者在各种不利中挣扎。但是他们仍旧成功了。所以，你也是可以成功的。

Do it: Look for a book or blog written by someone tackling a similar goal to yours, and read a little bit every day.

行动吧：寻找一本书或者一篇日志，书中描写了某人树立了一个同你类似的目标，然后每天都读上一段。

#4: Ask For Feedback from a Professional

4.找专业人士反馈信息

You might have spent months or years honing your skills in a particular area, but you’re still worried that you’re not good enough.

你可能花了几个月甚至几年在某个特殊的领域磨练你的技能，但是你仍旧担心你自己做得还不够好。

Find someone professional, and ask them for their opinion. If you’re hoping to write a best-selling novel, hire a writing coach or editor. If you’re planning to start up a restaurant, ask for advice from someone who’s done the same thing. You’ll find out that you’re doing a lot of things right (and you’ll also get a few tips on how to make improvements).

于是，找专业人士，问问他们的意见吧。如果你希望写一部热销的小说，就找个写作指导或者编辑。如果你想开个饭馆，你可以向开饭馆的人请教。你会发现你做的很多事情都是正确的（当然，你也会得到一些启示来提升自己。）

Do it: Consider hiring a coach, or joining a small group or class. You could look locally or online.

行动吧：考虑下找个指导员，或者加入一个小组或者班级。你可以从当地或者线上找找看。

#5: Collect Compliments and Testimonials

5.收集祝贺和客户感言

If you’re working on a long-term goal, chances are that you’ve have some nice comments from other people. Perhaps your friend told you how great you look now that you’ve lost a few pounds, or your first clients raved about what a great job you did for them.

如果你的目标是长期的，你将很可能从别人那边获得一些良好的评价。也许你的朋友告诉你，因为少了几磅肉，现在的你看上去多么的棒。或者你的第一批客户对你表示感激，说你为他们提供了一份多么了不起的工作。

Make sure you keep any encouraging words that you hear. Write down what your friends say. Save all those “thank you” emails. Post your testimonials on your website for the world to read. All of these positive, encouraging voices will help to quiet the demons of self-doubt.

确保你收集了所有你听到的鼓励的言语。写下你朋友们说的话，收集所有表示“感谢”的邮件，在网站上面写下客户的感言，让全世界的人都看到。所有这些积极的行动，鼓励的声音够能够帮助你更加自信。

Do it: Look through your emails for any positive feedback, and print it out.

行动吧：翻出邮件中所有的积极反馈，并打印出来吧。

#6: Plan Your Next Few Steps

6.计划接下来你要做的几个步骤

One of the best ways to overcome self-doubt is to have a clear plan. It’s easy to start thinking “I’ll never do it” if you don’t know what your next steps are.

克服不自信最好的办法之一就是制定一个明朗的计划。如果你不知道接下来要做什么，可以作这样的简单思考：“我从来没做过。。。”

A clear plan lets you break things down into manageable chunks. It highlights any areas where you’ll need to do further research or get some help. It takes any vague worries and fears and forces them out into the light – where you’ll be able to see plenty of ways to overcome them.

一个明朗的计划可以帮助你把事情分成容易操作，循序渐进的几个部分。这样可以很明显的划出你需要作深入研究或者寻求帮助的部分。这样可以排除你的忧虑，恐惧和阻力，因为你通过计划单可以很容易地找到克服难题的多种方法。

Do it: Write down the next three steps towards your goal.

行动吧：为自己的目标写出接下来的三个步骤吧。

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