五个方法让你的家庭重回美满

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5 Simple Ways to Reboot Your Family

五个方法让你的家庭重回美满

Editor's note: This is a guest post from Sherri Kruger of Zen Family Habits.

编者按：此文为来自（Zen Family Habits）禅宗爱好者之家的雪莉. 克鲁格的客座文章。

I have a great family who I love dearly but that's not to say we get off track from time to time. I want to share with you a few things we do occasionally to get back on the same page.

我有一个美满的家庭并且我深爱者我的家人，但这并不意味着我和家人从来没有发生过矛盾。我想和大家分享一些我们在不经意间的做法来使我们的家庭重回美满。

1. Have deep and meaningful conversations. After being with someone for months or years it's easy to take them for granted. We assume we know them better than they know themselves. We consider ourselves experts on their likes and dislikes, their needs and wants. And I'm sure you know what they say about assuming. The thing is people change. Their tastes change. Their hopes and dreams evolve. Their outlook on life has likely changed significantly to what it was 15 years ago.

1. 和家人深入交谈。当我们和家人在一起若干个月或数年，我们便习惯了他们。我们自以为是的认为我们比他们自己更了解他们，把自己当成了解他们喜好、厌恶和需求的专家。我想你应该知道这就是他们所认为的傲慢。然而，真实情况是人会变，他们的喜好会变，他们所想的和所期望的事情也会变。他们的人生可能跟15年前大不一样了。

The simple act of sitting and talking about things that matter can do wonders to deepen the understanding we have for one another.

我们只需要坐下来，和家人深入交谈我们关心的事，这样能加深彼此间的了解，拉近彼此的距离。

2. Be present. This probably isn't the first time you're hearing this on Zen Habits. When we're distracted by cell phones, email, work, presentations, TV etc. it's difficult to really appreciate what's going on around you. Think about it – if you're at work trying to have a conversation with your boss but he/she is constantly checking his/her email, phone messages and waving at everyone that walks past the window, how would you feel? Frustrated? Unimportant? Discounted?

2. 对家人全神贯注。这也许不是你在Zen Habits第一次听到这个说法了。当我们被电话、邮件、工作、演讲和电视等事务占满了我们的时间的时候，我们很难意识到我们身边发生的事情。想象这样一个场景——当你在工作期间希望跟你的老板有个谈话，而你的老板却不停的查收邮件、短信，跟走过窗户的每一个人挥手，你是作何感想？感到挫败，无关紧要，还是感到被忽视了？

You can only fully experience something and give someone your undivided attention when you don't have the temptation to be somewhere other than where you are in that moment. Your family is no different.

只有当你放下手头一切事情的时候，你才能全神贯注的体验一件事，才能给予别人全部的注意力。对你的家庭而言，同样是这个道理。

3. Do something fun. Block out a chunk of time and do something fun with your entire family. Go for a walk, ride your bikes or go skating. Do something none of you have done before like rock-wall climbing, yoga or badminton. Team activities where you have to work together to succeed are great ways to promote trust, increase the sense of belonging and unite you as a team.

3. 和家人一起做一些有趣的事情。抽出大量的时间和家人一起做一些有趣的事情。比如去散散步，骑自行车或者滑冰。去做一些你们都没有做过的事情，比如攀岩，瑜伽和羽毛球。大家一起协作完成的团队活动是提升相互信任感和归属感的好方法。

4. Plan for the future. Think as long term or short term. Maybe you want to plan your summer holidays or what you will do once you're done school. Maybe you want to plan a little further out and think about retirement or early retirement if that's in the cards. Planning together gives a sense of longevity to the relationship and gives you something to work towards together.

4. 共同规划你们的未来。做一个长期或短期的规划。比如你们可以规划好你们的暑假，或者考虑在学校的时候做些什么。你们也可以做一个更远的规划，考虑一下你们的退休，如果有可能还可以考虑一下你们的提前退休。共同规划你们的未来可以给你们带来情感关系的长久感，让你们为一些事情共同努力。

5. Invest in your family. Take the time to really put your family first. So many of us simply pay lip service to the phrase “family is my number one priority” yet very few of us actually live it. Investing a bit of time and energy in your family can tighten that core unit, make everyone feel safe and secure and raise happiness to levels you only imagined.

5. 投资你的家庭。真正的把家庭放在第一位。我们当中很多人只会在口头上说“家庭是最重要的”，但事实上很少有人真正的做到这一点。只需要花一点时间和精力在你的家庭上，就能让家庭关系牢固，让家庭中每一个人感觉到安全和稳定，这样能实实在在的提升整个家庭的幸福水平。

If you are ready to give your family a reboot, I would like to tell you about a program Leo and I will be offering through Zen Family Habits starting Thursday April 14. It's called The Ultimate Family Bootcamp and it's designed to help and inspire families of all shapes and sizes to regroup, reconnect, feel happier and move forward in their right direction.

如果你打算要让你的家庭重回美满，我想告诉你一个节目——家庭终极集训营，是由Leo和我从4月14日开始通过Zen Family Habits播出，目的是让各种家庭重新走到一起，感受到更多的快乐并使他们朝正确的方向走下去。

This is a 10 week multi-media bootcamp with 10 modules discussing topics like creating your ideal family, getting on solid financial ground, time management for real people, organizing and decluttering, mastering the art of self-renewal and much more. These modules consist of a combination of weekly videos, articles, workbooks, printables as well as expert interviews.

在为期10周的节目中，届时我们将讨论10个方面的话题，比如构建理想家庭，家庭理财，时间管理，家庭组织和安排，学会自立自强的方法等。我们将通过每周视频、文章、手册、图书和专家采访的形式展开10个话题的讨论。

If you would like more information please check out the course page here. Leo and I look forward to you joining us this April for a bootcamp – family style.

如果你想知道了解更多的信息，请查看节目主页。Leo和我期待着你加入我们的家庭终极集训营

Sherri is the co-creator of the The Ultimate Family Bootcamp. Read more on family, parenting, organizing and simple happiness at their blog Zen Family Habits.

雪莉也是家庭终极训练营的创立人。如果想要了解更多的关于家庭、为人父母、家庭组织和快乐，请在禅宗爱好者之家阅读更多的博客文章。

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