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3 Things Not to Do for Raising a Smart Kid

 教育孩子不要做的三件事

好的家长允许孩子自由时间和精神空间

We love our kids so much that we want to see them happy and smiling and believing that whatever they do is wonderful. But what comes naturally to us is not always the optimal way to react to our children's efforts. Rather, it's best to avoid too much non-specific praise as well as too much judgment. Thus:

 我们如此疼爱自己的孩子，我们希望孩子们幸福快乐并且自信他们所做的任何事都是很棒的。但是，通常来说，孩子们的努力的结果并不总是我们所期待的理想的方式。因此：

1. Don't rave about your child's early art work. When you're shown a drawing, if you say, "Wow, that's great!" you're actually inhibiting her intrinsic drive to create. You're making her dependent on your judgment and approval. Better to let her know it's what she thinks about what she's done that matters. Otherwise she'll grow up thinking that if she doesn't succeed at first, she might as well quit. Instead say, "Tell me something about this bit over here," or "This picture really looks like you had fun making it.

1.不要对孩子的早期艺术作品过度夸奖  当你在欣赏图画是，如果你说，“哇，这真是太棒了！”你实际是在抑制她创造的内因。你正使她依赖于你的判断和允许。更好的做法是使她了解到她关于她做的事情的看法才是重要的。否则的话，在她成长过程中她就会认为如果她一开始不成功，也许还不如停止。而不是说，

“告诉我一些关于这件事情的东西”，或者“这张图片看起来你制作的时候真的很高兴”

2. Don't suddenly interrupt your kid's games or hobbies for dinner or homework. When you pull her away from something she's deeply involved in, you're breaking her flow and you're actually training her to have a shorter attention span. Instead, work out a schedule with her so she knows when it's time for eating or homework. Help her learn to take charge of her own enthusiasms. It's the best way for her to be self-motivated. At least, give her plenty of warning that it's dinnertime or homework time

2.不要突然打断你孩子的游戏和爱好为了让他们吃完饭或是做作业。当你把她从正在乐于其中的事情中拉出来时你正在打断她的思想流并且是实际上你在训练她拥有短的注意力跨度。相反，你应该和她一起制定一个时间表她就知道什么时候吃饭是么时候做作业。帮她学会掌控她自己的积极性。对她来说自我激励是最好的办法。至少，你可以给她足够的警告提醒她吃饭时间或是作业时间到啦。

3.Don't always focus on the "right answer." Whether you're helping with homework or talking about what's going on the world or simply planning a birthday party, brainstorm. Ask your child to come up with as many possibilities as she can, the more way-out the better. By showing you value creativity, you enhance her brainpower and give her tools for an enriched life. Then go over the choices for action and choose the best -- that shows the role of analytical thinking -- but you need many fresh choices to find the best one.

 3.不要总是关注于正确的答案。不论你是在帮助孩子做作业，还是和孩子讨论世界上正在发生的事情，或是就在计划一个生日聚会而在头脑风暴。让你的孩子想出尽可能多的可能性，越多的方法越好。通过表现出你重视创造性，你在增强她的智力并给了她丰富人生的工具。然后检查这些行动的选择选出最好的，这就展示出了解析思维的作用，但是你需要许多的新鲜的想法来找出最好的一个。

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